Something about Friendship…(Do you have the right friends?)
Hello guys, friends can be different things to different people, but here I’m particularly addressing real friendship, there’s something about friendship that’s so fascinating. Friends can lift you up, they can pull you down, and they can be like medicine to help you heal your wounds. They’re around when you have no one to talk to, they know all the things you do so you don’t need to hide things from them, and sometimes when you’re down their very presence could uplift you and get you smiling again J.
Dear reader, who is your friend? Who is that person that you could always count on?, someone who would never let you down, that person you have spent time both building and cultivating a relationship with, slowly getting to know each other, finding out what each other likes and what they love to do, that person who knows all your secrets? Truth is, we all need a friend, and not feeling the need of friendship could be more of insecurity; than independence.
The important message here is, our friends can make us or break us. Friendship is a good thing and one of the most important parts of our lives; the kind of friends you have or choose to have could either destroy your life or help you get one step closer to your destiny. There are some things to consider when choosing friends that need to be in your life and friends that don’t need to be in your life. These are things much deeper than “we get along” (though that is an important factor). Here are some important things to consider:
What kind of values do they add to your life: When we are around people they influence us, either positively or negatively, and they enable us to carefully study our friends and the values they have added to our lives. This could be a very good factor in determining if that friend is worth keeping, or if that friendship may not be the best.
How truthful are they to you?: When you do something you know is wrong, and it’s clearly obvious your friend knows so too, do they tell you it’s wrong or do they just support you in doing the wrong things? If a person truly loves you, as any person worth being called a friend should, they would tell you what you do is wrong, and help you work towards changing it. This is vitally important because, if you have an aspect of your character that drastically needs change, and your friend knows about it but keeps it from you, that could ruin you later on in life, and the chances of you changing it may be slimmer simply because you would feel that people previously around you accepted it and feel it’s not wrong, but if those who love you and who you spend most of your time with when you get into the teenage years point it out to you, you’re more likely to change.
No One is Perfect – We all have faults, and one of the duties of a good friend is to advise us on our faults, because as we probably all know it’s more difficult to see your own fault.
Whats the point of the friendship? – Yea, you read it right, “What is the point?” As friends what do you guys do together, do you add values to each other’s lives or do you take away from each other’s lives? This should help you decide if the friendship is an asset (Helping you get forward) or a liability (Pulling you back).
Is it hindering your most important relationships with your most important friend? – Is your friendship hindering your relationship with Jesus? Truth is, Jesus is your most important friend, he is the only friend who would never let us down, and who knows all our secrets and loves us.
I’m in no way saying ignore all your friends, what I’m saying is, maybe some friendships should be left at “Hello/Hi” while others could get a bit deeper?
Well it’s a new year, maybe it’s time to get rid of the liabilities in your life and bring in some assets ?
Have a Great Year,
Stay Blessed.
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